Hello June. Six months into the year… seriously where has the time gone? I sometimes get really weird about the concept of time. How much time we have on this planet and why are we here?
Do we have a purpose to do greater things? Or do we want a simplifier and happier life without what society expects from us? What is happiness after all? Do we ever find it?
Rewind 6 months ago, I set some goals that I would like to reflect on. Also, this is just a little chat. An insight of what has been going on.
Some of you may have noticed I have slowed down a lot this year. Well, in some aspects of my life. I’m trying to embrace a ‘slower’ way of living to feel happier. It was one of my 2023 goals after all.
I feel like society has taught us to be over-achiever’s, work really darn hard, be materialistic and always want the next best things. For me, I want to experience more places, feel connected with reality and relationships. That’s what I value more than anything.
Yes, I do feel like a bit of hypocrite as I’m very connected on social media too.
Anyway, I think what has really enlightened me these past few weeks is listening to and watching a few things to gain a different perspective on life. Things I kind of already knew, but needed reminding.
The following things have really helped me: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck on Netflix, Stutz on Netflix, The Myth of Normal book, Re-watching Down to Earth with Zac Efron on Netflix and my Five Minute Gratitude Journal.
Strangely enough even Apple’s very recent Apple event was quite eye-opening to see what they have been working on for the future and the next updates. I love the announcements of the new updates for IOS 17. ‘Journal’ on your iPhone. As well as the rather cool update of monitoring your mental health daily.
I rely on the ‘Health’ and ‘Fitness’ apps maybe far more than I realise.
And, well the big announcement of the VR headset I won’t comment on the product itself, but I will say the idea behind it is very interesting, nothing new, but just not for me… I think the whole VR world is incredible but it can lead to a very distorted reality and something I chose not to get sucked in to. Great for gamers and such, but it’s a very niche market.
Anyway, back to my goals I set six months ago…
Focus on being ‘happy‘. I personally feel that it should be ok to feel any emotion. It’s what makes you human.
I have really been working on being happy these past six months. I can’t sit here and say I’ve nailed happiness, because… I haven’t. Some days I wake up absolutely distraught and terrified of what may or may not lie ahead for me. However, I think a trick of feeling ‘happier’ and more ‘fulfilled’ is to be grateful.
Grateful of small things, grateful of big things. Grateful of your life. Grateful for your existence on this floating planet. Because the reality is, you don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow.
I’ve had similar experiences to the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, one that really resonates with me is loosing people that always radiate positivity. Someone that may come across as one of the most incredibly happy humans, but deep down they are suffering in silence and can’t bare to carry on anymore. Or because of unfortunate ‘health’ reasons, they don’t have a long life expediency.
I think when you go through not one but two or more of these experiences, it does makes you re-evaluate everything. Especially when these happen in your early twenties.
I also wanted to address toxic ‘positivity’. Mainly referring to those ‘mean’ bullies that you’ve come across in your life, and they post all these quotes about positivity and be kind statements and they are the ones behind people who have attempted death and harm on themselves. Do these people have any remorse? Probably not. Because they don’t have an inch of ‘selflessness’ in them.
I do believe people can change though.
Moving swiftly on…
I guess I just didn’t expect some things to happen this year that I needed to address the problem/s face on and focus on my health and what truly matters to me. I am really fortunate and grateful that I can have this “break” at this time of my life. Honestly though, I’ve been through hell and back over the years, however I feel like my early thirties is where I’m just get started. There are lots of exciting things happening over the next few months which I’m sure I will talk about in due course.