With Valentine’s Day three days away, I wanted to write something on the topic of lurveee.
Now I’m not a love expert or haven’t been married twenty odd years but I know how to have a happy relationship after marriage, or so I think I do, haha.
I’ve been married four years and yes it was the BEST day of my life! But how to stay happy? Well, let’s touch on a few points shall we.
Overcome the wedding blues.
I don’t know if it was just me, but I had serious wedding blues after I got married. It felt like it was all over in the blink of an eye and I missed having so much to do. Once you overcome the wedding blues and the honeymoon period, you may be a bit sad for a while, but just talk to one another about it. Not every day is going to be perfect like your wedding day but it’s SO important to communicate.
Leave little notes.
Joe and I sometimes leave little notes around the house. I remember one note in particular where he prepared my dinner and had arrows pointing to the individual items and how long I needed to cook them for, it also said ‘I know you’ve had a hard long day, so here’s something to make you smile, enjoy your dins <3.’ So sweet and makes you feel appreciated
It’s SO important you have time to just talk. Talk about anything and everything. It’s so easy to get caught up on social media and on your phone while you’re together but it’s vital to spend time with one another and just re-live your memories, talk about your interests and talk about how your day went.
Build a family together.
I’m not saying having children makes you happy after marriage because I don’t know the answer to that. I don’t know whether I can have children, it’s a touchy subject that I won’t dwell on. But, furbabies make you happy! We have a miniature dachshund and he’s the perfect addition to our little family
I know we’re in lockdown and it’s hard to have date nights, however, having a night together in with a nice cooked meal, a glass of G&T and a film or watching your favourite TV show is bliss. Try to have a date night once or twice a month.
Be silly together.
I think the reason Joe and I are in a ‘successful’ relationship is that we don’t take ourselves too seriously. We do silly dance moves, say stupid things and just have a laugh together.
Not much to say on this apart from trust is the key to a happy relationship. What’s the point without trust?
Give each other space sometimes.
You can’t spend every moment together, sometimes you need to be alone and that’s ok, give each other the space. You’ll respect your partner for letting you have some well deserved ‘me’ time.
What is your key for a happy relationship?